Sunday, 5 February 2017



As I sit scrolling through Instagram it's apparent to me that self-love is something a lot of girls are planning to work on in 2017 and all I can say to that is FINALLY!!!

Self-love has often been associated with being vain or arrogant but in actual fact it's so much more than that; it comes down to wanting to look after and care for yourself and in my eyes there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

So I want to ask you one question. If you were in a relationship with yourself how would you describe it? Happy? Loving? Sad? A roller coaster of emotions? Destructive? Or abusive?

Social media is a huge part of our lives now-a-days, but when you see photo after photo of the "perfect" girl who looks as if their abs have been chiseled out of wood because they look unbelievable, it can leave you feeling deflated. But rest assure that not everything is as it seems... The girl on Instagram has probably spent about 45 minutes trying to take THAT photo looking their best with the help of great lighting and knows the best angle to show off their muscles, whilst most probably sporting a wedgie just so their pants sit in the correct place.

I'm sure I can speak for most girls here when I say that there's been at least one point in your life when you've felt like you're not good enough and your confidence/self esteem has been knocked. When that happens sometimes you need to remember it's not you!! We are all so good at focusing on our flaws and weaknesses, but very rarely do we focus on our strengths. What you really need is a change of perspective in how you look at yourself and higher self esteem; not a flatter stomach, softer skin, a prettier face or longer hair.

The majority of girls are obsessed with the number on the scales or the clothes size they fit into, but you are more important than that number. It doesn't matter what shape or size you are someone will always have something to say. I've been told "guys don't like muscly girls" and that's great because guess what I'm not doing it for a guy, my family or my friends, I'm doing it for me! Yes I have flaws and areas of my body I would like to improve but after years of training I can finally say I'm happy with the way I look and I'm not ashamed to say it.

The point I'm trying to make is that you don't need validation from anyone to feel good about yourself. There is nothing wrong in wanting to improve how you look but the number one factor is that you're comfortable in your own skin. This is the only body you will have so fall in love with taking care of yourself. Listen to your body and be kind to it. Eat when you're hungry, relax when you're stressed and sleep when you're tired.

Here are my top questions to ask yourself to encourage self pride and a higher self-esteem:

1. What could you do that would impress yourself?
2. Do you really respect that person enough to let their opinion matter?
3. Do you surround yourself with good influences or bad ones?
4. What kind of girl do you look up to and why?
5. Do you shy away from something you want to do because it's seen as different?

My last piece of advice is to just be yourself and let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, weird, beautiful, magical person that you are!


1 comment

  1. Love this post! It's so refreshing to see that self love is being recognised as something other than vanity and that it's totally okay to think you look fabulous πŸ’πŸΌ Social media can definitely be destructive but it's so great to see women on Instagram being real and promoting such body confidence πŸ’ͺ🏻😊


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